Overcoming Self Sabotage Using REBT
Introduction
In this conversation, Shannon and Martin discuss the role of self-sabotage in our lives and how Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) can help us overcome it. They explore the importance of setting specific goals, breaking them down into smaller steps, and gradually building tolerance for uncomfortable situations. They also highlight the influence of our thoughts on our behaviour and the detrimental impact of rigid beliefs. Albert Ellis's concept of the three "musts" that hold us back—I must do well, you must treat me well, and the world must be easy—is introduced as an example of these rigid beliefs. Through their conversation, they provide valuable insights and strategies for achieving rational thinking and overcoming self-imposed limitations.
About The Guest
Martin is a Senior Lecturer in Sport and Exercise Psychology at Staffordshire University, UK. He is a researcher, chartered consultant psychologist (BPS, HCPC Reg., CSci) and book author. He is most known for his work examining the use of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) within performance settings.
This Episode Is A Must Listen For:
- Anyone struggling to achieve their goals due to anxiety and self-doubt and wants to learn practical techniques for managing and overcoming these emotions.
- Coaches interested in incorporating Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) into their practice.
- Anyone looking to gain a deeper understanding of the influence of thoughts and beliefs on our emotional well-being and behaviour.
Key takeaways:
- Failure is inherent in reality and in being human, and it is through failures and flaws that our successes become more meaningful.
- Adversity is inevitable when pursuing goals, but our reaction to it can be unhealthy if we hold rigid and extreme beliefs.
- By understanding and managing our emotions, we can shape our emotional experiences in a more helpful way and expand our lives to fear less and embrace our desires and goals.
- Putting events into perspective and recognising that situations could always be worse can help in coping with adversity.
- REBT focuses on challenging irrational beliefs about being judged rather than denying the presence of judgment and ridicule.
- Setting realistic goals, breaking them down into smaller steps, and adopting a rational and logical approach can lead to healthier emotional reactions and overcoming self-imposed limitations.
The discussion highlights the significance of setting realistic goals, challenging rigid beliefs, and evaluating our thoughts and demands. By adopting a rational and logical approach to adversity and fear, individuals can experience healthier emotional reactions and overcome self-imposed limitations. The pragmatic nature of REBT encourages individuals to assess how their beliefs serve them and take a long-term perspective on challenging situations.
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Listen to the full episode to gain a deeper understanding of fear, rational thinking, and the practical techniques of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) that can help you overcome self-sabotage and achieve your goals.
